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Chaplain Kerry Wichterich

The sexual relationship described in the two scriptures found in Exodus and Deuteronomy is the sin of "porneia" or fornication...

Why fornication?   Because there is no marriage!

Genesis 2:24 AKJV is the description of a lawful sexual relationship between two people, which is given to us through the first man, Adam.  Exodus 22:16 AKJV                              

"And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife" (‘endow her’ - ref. Deuteronomy 22:29 AKJV).

Now notice the words "not betrothed"  in this scripture.

Betrothed means: As the same as one being already married.
(Look up the "betrothed" scriptures or in a concordance).

As stated in Exodus 22:16 AKJV, when two single (not betrothed) people engage in a sexual relationship, the word instructs that:

"he shall surely" be married to her.

Why?  Because they have become "one flesh" illegally, and now must become husband and wife through the marriage vow, or cleaving - Genesis 2:24.

AND in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 AKJV
"If a man find a damsel that IS a virgin, which is "not betrothed", and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver (the dowry), and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, "he may not put her away all his days."

Notice: "he may NOT put her away ALL his days", this is a life long arrangement.

 Why Is This?

Because they have "become one flesh"
as Paul states in 1 Corinthians 6:16 AKJV.

("one flesh" is [and gives] the picture of a sexual relationship, of intercourse.)

The LORD teaches us what intercourse is, by saying the words: "one flesh".

The LORD God ordained intercourse in the beginning,
as found in Genesis 2:21-24 AKJV which reads as follows.

"And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;and the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made He a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."

(verse 24 reads) "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

The word "cleave" in verse 24 is ("dabaq") pronounced "dah-vack", which means: to CLING, STAY CLOSE, KEEP CLOSE, STICK to, STICK WITH, JOIN TOGETHER.

As ordained from the beginning, a man shall leave his parents and "shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh."

In the NEW TESTAMENT the word "cleave" is kollaó κολλάω (from kólla, "glue") – to bond (cleave), adhere to (literally -> "glued together"); to cleave, join to; (figuratively) intimately connected in a soul-knit friendship. The description of a man and a woman being "glued together!"


Jesus refers to Genesis 2:24 KJV and the truth of being "cleaved" or "glued together" in order to be "one flesh" in marriage in Matthew 19:5-6 AKJV, & in Mark 10:8 AKJV.

Paul also refers to Genesis 2:24 AKJV in Ephesians 5:31 AKJV.
πορνεία or “porneia” is the Greek word translated in the KJV Bible into the word - "fornication".

We define fornication as: "voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to each other" (or not cleaved, or not glued together to each other - Genesis 2:24 AKJV).

Fornication then is linked to the definition of unlawful sex
(Only sex within a lawful marriage is not sinful.)

μοιχεία or “moicheia” is the Greek word translated
in the KJV into the word - "adultery".

Adultery "moicheia" is the word linked to "a lawful marriage" which defines the sexual relationship act outside of that lawful marriage union.

   One word defines sexual sin BEFORE marriage or the "cleaving or gluing together to another." - This word is “porneia” fornication.

The other word defines sexual sin AFTER marriage or after the "cleaving to or the gluing together to another." - This word is “moicheia” adultery.

Two words describing two, very different, sexual relationships.  One sexual relationship (which is within the marriage bond only)  is ordained by the LORD. The other sexual relationship (which is without the marriage bond) is NOT ordained by Him, it is sin.

> IF a person who has never been married (who is not betrothed, or is not cleaved to, or not glued together to another) has sexual  relations with another who has never been married (who is not betrothed, not cleaved or glued to another) we must identify this as sin, and call it:“porneia” or 'fornication.'

(Note: If you have called on the Name of the LORD, Exodus 22:16 AKJV & Deuteronomy 22:28-29 AKJV must be your guiding light concerning fornication.)

> IF a person who has never been married has sexual relations with one who is betrothed only and have not consummated their marriage, we must identify this as sin, and call it:“porneia” or 'fornication.'

> IF a person who has consummated their marriage vow (sex consummates a marriage vow, they are no longer considered "betrothed") and has sexual relations with anyone else, we must identify this as sin, and call it:“moicheia” or 'adultery.'

> IF a person who has never been married  nor is betrothed to another has sexual relations with someone who has never been married  nor is betrothed to another, we must identify this as sin, and call it:"proneia" fornication.

(They must be married.  Exodus 22:16 & Deuteronomy 22:28-29)

These two sexual sins; “porneia” (fornication) & “moicheia” (adultery) are very different from each other.

Again, these two very different words each define a sexual sin and gives us "insight" (the power of acute observation and discernment) to understand the relationship context of the individuals engaging in these sinful acts.

These two words describe the sexual relations engaged in by those who are either "cleaved to another" or are "not cleaved to another".

>IF a person was "betrothed" (meaning: is cleaving to someone, is soon to consummate their vow) and has engaged in sexual relations with another, this would be sin.  It is call: "porneia" (fornication), not "moicheia" (adultery).

> IF a person who is "betrothed" finds their betrothal (their soon to be spouse through the vow and  consummation act of intercourse) unfaithful [meaning: “porneia”  fornication] in this case as described in Matthew 19:9, that person can "put away" their soon to be spouse for the cause of “porneia” fornication, and marry another.

There is no adultery "moicheia" sin because the betrothal vow was not consummated, sealing the marriage bond:  "What Therefore God Has Joined Together, Let Not Man Put Asunder"
Matthew 19:6, Mark 10:9, Genesis 2:24 & 4:1                                                              

>  IF a person is married and puts away their spouse and marries another, this

    would be sin, it is called "moicheia" adultery.

>  AND (this person) causes the one who is 'put away' to commit "moicheia"



> WHOEVER marries him/her that is put away commits "moicheia" adultery.

It's either stay married or stay single.  (single as in idea of a 'eunuch' - Matthew 19:12 "celibacy").

Only marry in the LORD. (1 Corinthians 7:39).

In the light of   Matthew 19:9 AKJV

    Iffornication "porneia" can mean sexual sin committed by a person whose marriage has been consummated, then why did the Lord use the word "porneia" instead of "moicheia" when "moicheia" describes the sexual sin of a married person?                                                                                                               

And whosoever is 'put away' will commit adultery "moicheia";  

     IF she remarries again, (except for the reason of  "porneia" fornication as the Lord states), she should be free to marry another and would not be committing "moicheia" if her husband, who put her away, remarries someone else - RIGHT? 
    That's not right!..... the Lord Jesus said she would be committing "moicheia" adultery.           
    AND....her husband IS committing "moicheia" adultery.... therefore he is NOT committing fornication but is committing adultery.                                            

Why is this?

The disciples understood this very clearly.  They asked the Lord Jesus about it (Matthew 19:10 AKJV) and said; "... If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry."

And the Lord responds; "All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given."

Again, why is this?... It is because the word
fornication "porneia"points to sexual relations 'before' marriage, andadultery "moicheia"points to sexual relations 'after' marriage.

As you can see, if you don't know what these two words really mean, then confusion can mislead you.

Paul writes;

"It is reported commonly that there is
fornication "porneia"among you (not"moicheia" adultery), and suchfornication "porneia"(again, not"moicheia" adultery) as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife." (1 Corinthians 5:1 AKJV).

fornication "porneia"..." (1 Cor. 6:1 8 AKJV), and " the body is not forfornication "porneia", but for the Lord." (1 Cor. 6:13 AKJV).

The Jews said;

"We be not born of
'fornication' "porneia"; WE HAVE one Father, even God." (John 8:41 AKJV)

The Apostles and elders said to the Gentile church;

" ...that ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from
fornication "porneia": from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well." (Acts 15:29 AKJV).

Paul again says;

"Nevertheless, to avoid
fornication "porneia", let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:2 AKJV).

Paul also writes;

"For this is the WILL of God, even your SANCTIFICATION, that ye should abstain from
fornication "porneia"(1 Thessalonians 4:3 AKJV).

Again Paul writes;

"Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these;
Adultery "moicheia", Fornication "porneia", uncleanness, lasciviousness..."

(Notice: Two different words describing two different sexual sins in the same verse concerning "the works of the flesh" - One is in relation to sexual sin "within the marriage bond" and the other is in relation to sexual sin "outside of the marriage bond")

Listen to 1st Corinthians 5


And Paul writes to the Corinthian church:

"It is reported commonly that there is fornication "porniea" among you (not "moicheia" adultery), and such fornication "porneia" (again, not "moicheia" adultery) as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife." (1 Corinthians 5:1 AKJV).

Remember, "porneia" fornication points to sexual relations before marriage, and "moicheia" adultery points to sexual relations after marriage.

In the above scripture, "porneia" fornication is used to describe the sexual relation between the "father's wife" and the 'son'.  The word connected to a "marriage bond" is not used in this passage, which is the word "moicheia" adultery.

  By observing this sinful relationship through the word used to describe it, it must be understood that the 'father' did BETROTHED or
espouse a 'wife' making him the husband to her, as Joseph was husband to Mary {Matthew 1:18-19, Luke 1:27 & 2:5 AKJV}, BUT he did not consummate the marriage yet {same as Joseph & Mary}.

  The father's 'son' and his 'wife' [betrothed wife] were committing "porneia" fornication the sexual sin outside of marriage.                                                                                                    
  If the father and his betrothed wife did consummate their vows, then the word "moicheia" adultery would have been used to describe this sinful relationship.                                                                                                          
  This is why the word "porneia" fornication is used to describe this sinful sexual relationship and not the word "moicheia" adultery.                   

   Again, 'betrothed' means the same as if one is already married.  A betrothal is the "beginning" of a cleaving, a commitment, a vow, a contract, a covenant taking place.

Example of a Betrothal

And the woman is considered to be 'espoused as a wife' - Matthew 1:18 AKJV(example: Mary to Joseph)

And also the man is considered to be now a 'husband' - Matthew 1:16 AKJV(example: Joseph to Mary)

But the man has not as yet 'taken unto him' his wife - Matthew 1:20 KJV

(example: Joseph to Mary)

This is a 'betrothal' or one who is 'betrothed'.

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The word 'engagement' is a similar idea of a betrothal, but to be betrothed is to be considered as being a "husband" and having a "wife".                   
(Look up all the "betrothed" scriptures at or in a concordance to verify how this "marriage" is looked upon.)                              
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About Deuteronomy 24:1-4

verse 1 - "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him "write her a bill of divorcement", and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house."

The Lord Jesus refers to this idea of what was 'said by them of old time' (Matthew 5:27) concerning the 'writing a bill of divorcement" and makes this response; "but I say to you, that whosoever..."

                     (Matthew 5:32)                                                                                                               
  Because the Lord said; "but I say to you that whosoever...", this makes the 'writing a bill of divorcement' for any reason to be "moicheia" adultery.                                                                
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     Deuteronomy 24:2 - "And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife."

> Becausethe Lord said; "but I say to you that whosoever...", when 'she' in vs. 2, leaves and becomes another man's wife, she is now committing"moicheia" adultery.                                           

     Deuteronomy 24:3 - "And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and give its in her hand, and sends her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;"

     Deuteronomy 24:4 - "her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God gives thee for an inheritance."

> She has become "defiled" and this action is "abomination before the Lord," And the land has been made to "sin".  Now this statement is still true for the Lord has said; "but I say to you .....  except for "porneia" fornication."                                        

> Because the Lord said: "but I say to you that whosoever...", the idea of "writing a bill of divorcement" for any reason is nullified.  This keeps him form putting her away for ANY REASON, and keeps him from being "defiled."                             

> The Lord has now eliminated the "abomination before Him" to cease, and the land has no cause to sin, because the husband now CANNOT put away his wife just for ANY REASON or because he "has found some uncleanness in her."                                     

We are betrothed to the LORD!

You are one spirit with the Lord, whosoever of you is joined unto the Lord 

1 Corinthians 6:17.

   An earthly marriage is the picture of the reality of the heavenly marriage between a born again christian and the Lord Jesus which will take place at the "Marriage Supper of the Lamb."

Revelation 19:9
"And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God."

"I hope this enlightens some of you and

helps you to commit to your vows and

commit to the word of the Lord."

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